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Author: Harriet Lerner Publisher: Harper Collins ISBN: 0061851833 Category : Family & Relationships Languages : en Pages : 272
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Bestselling author Harriet Lerner focuses on the challenge and the importance of being able to express one's "authentic voice" in intimate relationships. The key problem in relationships, particularly over time, is that people begin to lose their voice. Despite decades of assertiveness training and lots of good advice about communicating with clarity, timing, and tact, women and men find that their greatest complaints in marriage and other intimate relationships are that they are not being heard, that they cannot affect the other person, that fights go nowhere, that conflict brings only pain. Although an intimate, long-term relationship offers the greatest possibilities for knowing the other person and being known, these relationships are also fertile ground for silence and frustration when it comes to articulating a true self. And yet giving voice to this self is at the center of having both a relationship and a self. Much as she did in THE MOTHER DANCE, Lerner will approach this rich subject with tales from her personal life and clinical work, inspiring and teaching readers to speak their own truths to the most important people in their lives.
Author: Harriet Lerner Publisher: Harper Collins ISBN: 0061851833 Category : Family & Relationships Languages : en Pages : 272
Book Description
Bestselling author Harriet Lerner focuses on the challenge and the importance of being able to express one's "authentic voice" in intimate relationships. The key problem in relationships, particularly over time, is that people begin to lose their voice. Despite decades of assertiveness training and lots of good advice about communicating with clarity, timing, and tact, women and men find that their greatest complaints in marriage and other intimate relationships are that they are not being heard, that they cannot affect the other person, that fights go nowhere, that conflict brings only pain. Although an intimate, long-term relationship offers the greatest possibilities for knowing the other person and being known, these relationships are also fertile ground for silence and frustration when it comes to articulating a true self. And yet giving voice to this self is at the center of having both a relationship and a self. Much as she did in THE MOTHER DANCE, Lerner will approach this rich subject with tales from her personal life and clinical work, inspiring and teaching readers to speak their own truths to the most important people in their lives.
Author: Harriet Lerner Publisher: Harper Collins ISBN: 0062328522 Category : Self-Help Languages : en Pages : 256
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The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller that has transformed the lives of millions of readers, dramatically changing how women and men view relationships. Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel—and certainly our anger is no exception. "Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change. For decades, this book has helped millions of readers learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. With a new introduction by the author, The Dance of Anger is ready to lead the next generation.
Author: Harriet Lerner Publisher: Penguin ISBN: 1101554215 Category : Family & Relationships Languages : en Pages : 288
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Following a unique format perfect for today's world, the renowned author of The Dance of Anger gives us just over 100 rules that cover all the hot spots in long-term relationships. Marriage Rules offers new solutions to age-old problems ("He won't talk"/"She doesn't want sex") as well as modern ones (your partner's relationship to technology.) You'll also learn how to: Calm things down and warm them up Talk straight and fight fair Listen well as a spiritual practice Connect with a distant partner Survive the unique challenges of children, stepchildren and difficult- laws Follow a 12-step program to overcome defensiveness Know how and when to draw the line Take back your marriage when things fall apart Marriage Rules is a treasure chest of lively, practical advice to help you navigate your couple relationship with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction. If one person in a couple follows ten rules of his or her choice, it will generate a major, positive change. All that's required is a genuine wish for a better relationship and a willingness to practice.
Author: Harriet Lerner Publisher: William Morrow Paperbacks ISBN: 9780060916466 Category : Psychology Languages : en Pages : 276
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In The Dance of Intimacy, the bestselling author of The Dance of Anger outlines the steps to take so that good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones can be healed. Taking a careful look at those relationships where intimacy is most challenged--by distance, intensity, or pain--she teaches us about the specific changes we can make to achieve a more solid sense of self and a more intimate connectedness with others. Combining clear advice with vivid case examples, Dr. Lerner offers us the most solid, helpful book on intimate relationships that both women and men may ever encounter.
Author: Harriet Lerner Publisher: Harper Collins ISBN: 0061983713 Category : Political Science Languages : en Pages : 256
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Unhappiness, says bestselling author Harriet Lerner, is fueled by three key emotions: anxiety, fear, and shame. They are the uninvited guests in our lives. When tragedy or hardship hits, they may become our constant companions. Anxiety can wash over us like a tidal wave or operate as a silent thrum under the surface of our daily lives. With stories that are sometimes hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking, Lerner takes us from "fear lite" to the most difficult lessons the universe sends us. We learn: how a man was "cured in a day" of the fear of rejection -- and what we can learn from his story how the author overcame her dread of public speaking when her worst fears were realized how to deal with the fear of not being good enough, and with the shame of feeling essentially flawed and inadequate how to stay calm and clear in an anxious, crazy workplace how to manage fear and despair when life sends a crash course in illness, vulnerability, and loss how "positive thinking" helps -- and harms how to be our best and bravest selves, even when we are terrified and have internalized the shaming messages of others No one signs up for anxiety, fear, and shame, but we can’t avoid them either. As we learn to respond to these three key emotions in new ways, we can live more fully in the present and move into the future with courage, clarity, humor, and hope. Fear and Other Uninvited Guests shows us how.
Author: Everest Media, Publisher: Everest Media LLC ISBN: 1669398293 Category : Psychology Languages : en Pages : 49
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Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 The art of communication is a difficult one, and we may do our best to speak but still feel unheard. We may find that we cannot affect our husband or wife or partner, that fights go nowhere, and that conflict brings only pain rather than an opportunity for two people to learn more about each other. #2 We can never guarantee that the other person will get our message, or respond the way we want. But we can learn to be heard and move relationships forward. We can take a conversation to the next level when the initial foray doesn’t bring the desired result. #3 The challenge of finding an authentic voice within an intimate relationship is far larger than a word like communication can ever begin to describe. Authenticity brings to mind such elusive qualities as being fully present, centered, and in touch with our best selves in our most important conversations. #4 The challenge in conversation is not just to be ourselves, but to choose the self we want to be. We don’t discover who we are by sitting alone on a mountaintop and meditating, or by being introspective and going deeper.
Author: Harriet Goldhor Lerner Publisher: Piatkus Books ISBN: 9780749922436 Category : Communication Languages : en Pages : 256
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Good communication is the key to successful relationships. However, in marriage and other intimate relationships both men and women complain that they stop being heard, and fail to communicate with the other person. The resulting conflict only leads to pain, frustration, silence and anger. In The Dance of Connection Lerner shows you how to articulate your true self and transform your relationships.
Author: Harriet Goldhor Lerner Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers ISBN: 9780060160678 Category : Family & Relationships Languages : en Pages : 284
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Internationally acclaimed psychologist Harriet Lerner discusses how good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones healed. Dance of Intimacy presents specific steps for improving relationships where intimacy is challenged by too much distance, too much intensity, or simply too much pain.
Author: John D. Palmer Publisher: University of Hawaii Press ISBN: 082486087X Category : Family & Relationships Languages : en Pages : 217
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Korean adoptees have a difficult time relating to any of the racial identity models because they are people of color who often grew up in white homes and communities. Biracial and nonadopted people of color typically have at least one parent whom they can racially identify with, which may also allow them access to certain racialized groups. When Korean adoptees attempt to immerse into the Korean community, they feel uncomfortable and unwelcome because they are unfamiliar with Korean customs and language. The Dance of Identities looks at how Korean adoptees "dance," or engage, with their various identities (white, Korean, Korean adoptee, and those in between and beyond) and begin the journey toward self-discovery and empowerment. Throughout the author draws closely on his own experiences and those of thirty-eight other Korean adoptees, mainly from the U.S. Chapters are organized according to major themes that emerged from interviews with adoptees. "Wanting to be like White" examines assimilation into a White middle-class identity during childhood. Although their White identity may be challenged at times, for the most part adoptees feel accepted as "honorary" Whites among their families and friends. "Opening Pandora’s Box" discusses the shattering of adoptees’ early views on race and racism and the problems of being raised colorblind in a race-conscious society. "Engaging and Reflecting" is filled with adoptee voices as they discover their racial and transracial identities as young adults. During this stage many engage in activities that they believe make more culturally Korean, such as joining Korean churches and Korean student associations in college. "Questioning What I Have Done" delves into the issues that arise when Korean adoptees explore their multiple identities and the possible effects on relationships with parents and spouses. In "Empowering Identities" the author explores how adoptees are able to take control of their racial and transracial identities by reaching out to parents, prospective parents, and adoption agencies and by educating Korean and Korean Americans about their lives. The final chapter, "Linking the Dance of Identities Theory to Life Experiences," reiterates for adoptees, parents, adoption agencies, and social justice activists and educators the need for identity journeys and the empowered identities that can result. The Dance of Identities is an honest look at the complex nature of race and how we can begin to address race and racism from a fresh perspective. It will be well received by not only members of the Korean adoption community and transracial parents, but also Asian American scholars, educators, and social workers.
Author: Harriet Lerner
Author: Harriet Lerner
Author: Harriet Lerner
Author: Harriet Lerner
Author: Harriet Lerner
Author: Harriet Lerner
Author: Harriet Goldhor Lerner
Author: Everest Media,
Author: Harriet Goldhor Lerner
Author: Harriet Goldhor Lerner
Author: John D. Palmer