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Author: Dawn Millen Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform ISBN: 9781499771992 Category : Self-Help Languages : en Pages : 68
Book Description
After I had written a list of things I have learned over the last 16 months I read it again and decided that it would make a great basis for a book on the first year of my life as a widow.I was widowed on the 20th of December 2010 at 6am. My husband breathed his last breath in our home and in that moment life, as I had known it for 27 years had ceased to exist and the 25 years of care giving had suddenly stopped. At that point in time, like most widows, I descended into a fog that carried me through the first few weeks. This fog protects the mind to a degree and aids the bereaved in coming to terms with the sudden changes in their lives. Changes that no one plans for, that no one wants, but changes that are happening all around you from the moment that you become a widow or widower.My family and friends were wonderful, but were unable to reach me through that fog for many weeks. I remember waking each morning and putting my feet on the floor and wondering what I was going to do with the day now that I no longer had my husband to care for. I think during that time I did withdraw from almost everyone and for that I am sorry, but for my own sake and for the sake of others I needed to pull away and lick my wounds. I did not want to drag anyone down the path of grief with me and did not want anyone to witness the depth of the grief I felt. I have always been a private person with things like this and it probably stems from my childhood in the United Kingdom where a stiff upper lip is taught to all children in my family. Grief is a private thing and not for the consumption of others. This is what I was taught as a child and something I have carried through my life and even now am reluctant to show this grief to others.I did not cry at his funeral, the fog was still so thick that there is still an unreality attached to that day. I remember the details, but they are almost misty and feel like they are someone else's memories. I had promised him too, that I would not let the world see me cry on that day and to honour his memory I held myself together. I felt like ice inside though and tears were ready to melt and shed.I do believe though that I had shed many tears over the years we were together and during the times when the Doctors told me that he would not survive. Those were the times for tears, grief for the little things that were slowly being taken away from him and us. The ever-present threat of death for all those years meant that the grieving had become a part of life and that may have softened somewhat the pangs after he died. I will never know as I can only share the journey that I have taken in the hopes that it will help someone else along the wayWriting this book is part of my dream and part of the person I am. It is part, only part of the story of this year and a half of my life. This book has come to mean a lot to me, sharing this journey with others also means a lot as this may help some other widow or widower with their start upon this journey.
Author: Dawn Millen Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform ISBN: 9781499771992 Category : Self-Help Languages : en Pages : 68
Book Description
After I had written a list of things I have learned over the last 16 months I read it again and decided that it would make a great basis for a book on the first year of my life as a widow.I was widowed on the 20th of December 2010 at 6am. My husband breathed his last breath in our home and in that moment life, as I had known it for 27 years had ceased to exist and the 25 years of care giving had suddenly stopped. At that point in time, like most widows, I descended into a fog that carried me through the first few weeks. This fog protects the mind to a degree and aids the bereaved in coming to terms with the sudden changes in their lives. Changes that no one plans for, that no one wants, but changes that are happening all around you from the moment that you become a widow or widower.My family and friends were wonderful, but were unable to reach me through that fog for many weeks. I remember waking each morning and putting my feet on the floor and wondering what I was going to do with the day now that I no longer had my husband to care for. I think during that time I did withdraw from almost everyone and for that I am sorry, but for my own sake and for the sake of others I needed to pull away and lick my wounds. I did not want to drag anyone down the path of grief with me and did not want anyone to witness the depth of the grief I felt. I have always been a private person with things like this and it probably stems from my childhood in the United Kingdom where a stiff upper lip is taught to all children in my family. Grief is a private thing and not for the consumption of others. This is what I was taught as a child and something I have carried through my life and even now am reluctant to show this grief to others.I did not cry at his funeral, the fog was still so thick that there is still an unreality attached to that day. I remember the details, but they are almost misty and feel like they are someone else's memories. I had promised him too, that I would not let the world see me cry on that day and to honour his memory I held myself together. I felt like ice inside though and tears were ready to melt and shed.I do believe though that I had shed many tears over the years we were together and during the times when the Doctors told me that he would not survive. Those were the times for tears, grief for the little things that were slowly being taken away from him and us. The ever-present threat of death for all those years meant that the grieving had become a part of life and that may have softened somewhat the pangs after he died. I will never know as I can only share the journey that I have taken in the hopes that it will help someone else along the wayWriting this book is part of my dream and part of the person I am. It is part, only part of the story of this year and a half of my life. This book has come to mean a lot to me, sharing this journey with others also means a lot as this may help some other widow or widower with their start upon this journey.
Author: Susan Barber Publisher: iUniverse ISBN: 1462035175 Category : Self-Help Languages : en Pages : 112
Book Description
Imagine working for years at your " dream job" only to have it taken away from you suddenly. What if the Boss changed your job description from " partner and party planner" to permanent cubicle resident with no benefits or chance of reinstatement? That's what it is like to become a widow. People don't know how to talk to you anymore. They exclude you from conversations that might involve the mention of couples. They are uncomfortable Becoming a widow isnt like becoming a wife. Becoming a wife requires major planning. But becoming a widow is often a surprise, and even with advance planning some people are still stunned. Its difficult to prepare for widowhood. In Widows 101, author Susan Barber uses her personal experience with her husbands death to provide practical tips for surviving the death of a spouse. Delivered with a gentle, lighthearted approach, Widows 101 touches upon core elements widows will need to address after losing their husbands, such as remaking yourself and redefining what you want dealing with grief making adjustments in your personal and social life handling your spouses personal effects attending to the details of your new life alone communicating your wishes for your own funeral . Widows 101 helps you prepare for the changes in your life as you confront widowhood. Learn how to make the changes work for you instead of against you as you navigate one of lifes most difficult periods.
Author: Berenice E Kleiman Publisher: ISBN: Category : Languages : en Pages : 128
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Imagine yourself dealing with spousal loss and discovering that ALL your income sources have suddenly frozen, including bank accounts, Social Security, pension, and brokerage accounts. You have a mound of paper work and need access to the death certificate, safe deposit box and/or legal papers, even your original Social Security card to prove your identity, marriage and loss. But with Covid-19 banks and government offices are closed. As a matter of fact, you can't even have a formal funeral, wake, Shiva or bereavement to help you mourn your loss. A mountain of demands and paper work stretches out before you with little support or ability to fill out the forms and reopen these accounts. This was the situation I encountered in April 2020 when even my husband's death certificate took eight weeks to arrive. Caught in grief and loss, I vowed as I fought through these challenges that I would leave a trail for others who follow me. I wrote WIDOWHOOD 101 to help widows and widowers prepare for these next steps. Few of us know that our wills and powers of attorney are only two small parts of this new equation. Each chapter ends with "Lessons Learned" to help make your passage easier. This book is targeted to those generally 65 or older, who have a comfortable financial base and have had long marriages. It not only includes my experience but also is based on about 40 interviews with friends and their friends of comparable backgrounds, most of whom were not caught in Covid-19. But they still ran into buzz saws. Among the tips to share: COMMUNICATE with your spouse about end-of-life decisions far in advance, including nursing home vs. home care; burial vs. cremation; even the type of ceremony preferred; COMMUNICATE about your finances and have all pertinent records in one place with accessibility that you share not only with each other but also with your executor. IF A SECOND MARRIAGE involving children in one or both, make sure you have an excellent estate attorney to protect all rights from challenges, especially an attorney not planning to retire in the next couple of years.WIDOWHOOD 101: NEXT STEPS is my story, my grief and all. It's honest...and hopefully will be helpful.
Author: Mavis E. Mate Publisher: Boydell & Brewer Ltd ISBN: 9780851155340 Category : History Languages : en Pages : 240
Book Description
Did the expanding economic life of England after the Black Death improve the lot of women, as is commonly thought? This study argues not. It has long been thought that the post Black Death period offered unparallelled opportunities for women. However, through a careful consideration of economic and legal changes affecting women of all social classes and conditions, the author shows that this was not the case, taking issue with orthodox opinion. She argues that marriage at a late age was not customary for women, and that the ability of wives to supplement their income with intermittent paid labour (at harvest time, for example) was not so great as has been supposed: rather, most married women spent more time on unpaid agricultural labour on their own land than their peers had done in the pre-plague economy. ProfessorMate also demonstrates that there is little evidence to support the current belief that widowhood was the period in a woman's life when she enjoyed most power, freedom, and independence; moreover, legal changes were a mixed blessing for women, leaving some widows with a larger portion and a more secure title to land, but totally depriving others. Throughout, the book pays much attention to class as well as gender, showing how many things were determined byit, from what a woman wore or ate to the age at which she married, her power within the household, and even her vulnerability to rape. The late MAVIS E. MATE was Professor of History Emerita, University of Oregon.
Author: Jan Thompson Publisher: Tate Publishing ISBN: 1602470634 Category : Bereavement Languages : en Pages : 170
Book Description
Jan Thompson takes you with her through the first year of widowhood. Honest and real, from the agony of uselessness to the newness of purpose, widows will know that they are not alone. Families, friends and pastors will better understand how to relate and minister to the widow. When she felt she would suffocate in her anguish, Jan felt the breath of the Holy Spirit. When she reached out for her husband, it was God who touched her. The widow brings before her Lord all that she has, and places it on the altar. God blesses her mite into a strength she could not have imagined, and gives her "The Widow's Might" to live once again; abundantly, in victory and grace.
Author: Sandra Stanley Holton Publisher: Routledge ISBN: 1135141177 Category : History Languages : en Pages : 306
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One nineteenth-century commentator noted the ‘public’ character of Quaker women as signalling a new era in female history. This study examines such claims through the story of middle-class women Friends from among the kinship circle created by the marriage in 1839 of Elizabeth Priestman and the future radical Quaker statesman, John Bright. The lives discussed here cover a period from the late eighteenth to the early twentieth centuries, and include several women Friends active in radical politics and the women’s movement, in the service of which they were able to mobilise extensive national and international networks. They also created and preserved a substantial archive of private papers, comprising letters and diaries full of humour and darkness, the spiritual and the mundane, family confidences and public debate, the daily round and affairs of state. The discovery of such a collection makes it possible to examine the relationship between the personal and public lives of these women Friends, explored through a number of topics including the nature of Quaker domestic and church cultures; the significance of kinship and church membership for the building of extensive Quaker networks; the relationship between Quaker religious values and women’s participation in civil society and radical politics and the women’s rights movement. There are also fresh perspectives on the political career of John Bright, provided by his fond but frank women kin. This new study is a must read for all those interested in the history of women, religion and politics.
Author: Steven King Publisher: Univ of Hertfordshire Press ISBN: 1909291153 Category : Social Science Languages : en Pages : 365
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This comparative study gathers together new research by local historians into aspects of welfare in Hertfordshire spanning four centuries and focusing on towns and villages across the county, including Ashwell, Cheshunt, Hertford, Pirton, and Royston, amongst many others. In so doing it makes a valuable contribution to the current debate about the spatial and chronological variation in the character of welfare regimes within single counties, let alone more widely. As well as viewing poor relief geographically and chronologically, the book also considers the treatment of particular groups such as the aged, the mad, children, and the unemployed, and shows how, within the constraints of the relevant welfare laws, each group was dealt with differently, giving a more nuanced picture than has perhaps been the case before. The overarching question that the book attempts to answer is how effectively Hertfordshire cared for those in need. With chapters on madhouses, workhouses, certified industrial schools, the Foundling Hospital, pensions, and medical care, the book covers a very broad range of topics through which a complex picture emerges. While some officials seem to have been driven by a relatively narrow sense of their obligations to the poor and vulnerable, others appear to have tailored welfare packages to their precise needs. Naturally, self-interest played a part: if the weakest citizens were well managed, vagrancy might be lessened, the spread of disease contained, and control maintained over the cost of looking after the poor and sick. It seems that Hertfordshire was relatively nimble and sensitive in discovering and treating its people's needs. Evidence is beginning to emerge, in other words, that Hertfordshire was in essence a caring county.
Author: Dawn Millen
Author: Dawn Millen
Author: Susan Barber
Author: Berenice E Kleiman
Author: Sir Edward Bruce Hamley
Author: Edward Bruce Hamley
Author: Sir Edward Bruce HAMLEY
Author: Mavis E. Mate
Author: Jan Thompson
Author: Sandra Stanley Holton
Author: Steven King